Sexual
Exploitation of Clients by Professionals
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When Professionals Exploit Their Clients/Patients/Students
Professionals
in mental health-related services, psychologists, psychiatrists, counselors, therapists,
ministers, as well as doctors, nurses, attorneys, professors, educators, social workers, emergency
/ crisis / victim services, and law enforcement officers are entrusted and empowered by
society to have authority and power in people's lives.
| "I
was hurting deeply when I made my first appointment with him. It seemed like I
couldn't cope with life anymore. I was deeply depressed and I trusted him to help
me. He convinced me he knew what was best for me. Somehow we became sexually
involved. Now, a year later, I hurt a thousand times worse than I ever
imagined. I feel used, exploited, violated, and shattered. To think, I paid
for him to do this to me! I don't think I'll be able to trust anyone ever
again." |
This power gives them the opportunity, by virtue of their professional role, to serve
and help others. If this power is abused; if a client's dependence on a professional
is exploited, the client is almost always injured and the professional has betrayed the
client's and society's trust. When a client is sexually exploited, the
wounds can be particularly deep. It is a violation that goes beyond physical
violation. It is an emotional, psychological, and sometimes spiritual violation.
It is the most intimate way a person can be abused.
Professional standards and codes of
ethics emphatically state that having a sexual relationship with a client is highly
unethical and unprofessional behavior, and is forbidden. In fact, it is illegal in
many states.
| "At
first, my counselor really helped me through a difficult part of my life. I felt
like he really cared. I shared my deepest innermost self with him. Over time,
he began telling me how hard his life was and how unhappy he was in his marriage. One day,
he leaned forward and kissed me, the next thing I knew, we were making love right there in
his office. I knew it was wrong, but for some reason, I just couldn't tell him
NO. That was the beginning of what later became a nightmare in my life." |
Why such high standards? Because people can be deeply
injured by professionals who exploit them. Therefore, it is not considered
permissible behavior. Also, in order for a professional to possess the power and
authority and trust they require to carry out their role in helping clients, they have to
be trustworthy as professionals to not abuse their clients. If counselors or
doctors had a reputation of abusing their clients, clients would never allow
themselves to be vulnerable to the degree necessary in psychotherapy or medicine.
Thus when professionals abuse their power and position, they not only injure the client
and violate society's trust, they also damage their entire profession. This is why
the standards of professional conduct and codes of ethics and laws make it clear.
Sexual exploitation of clients is not to be tolerated, and it is the professional's
responsibility to ensure this does not happen.
For someone who has been sexually exploited by a professional, reactions
are unique and individual, but the consequences sometimes can be devastating, with many
resultant problems, symptoms, and emotions:1
The
Impact of Sexual Exploitation of Clients |
depression |
anxiety
disorders |
dissociation |
dysthymia |
post
traumatic stress disorder |
chronic
fatigue |
intense
psychological distress at exposure to internal or external cues |
physiological
reactivity upon exposure to internal or external cues |
increased
risk of suicide |
psychiatric
hospitalizations |
sexual
dysfunction |
intrusive
thoughts & images |
flashbacks |
nightmares |
insomnia |
disruption
of significant relationships |
divorce |
feelings of
betrayal & abandonment |
isolation
and sense of profound and pervasive emptiness |
mistrust of
others, especially authorities |
faith &
spiritual crises |
emotional
withdrawal |
conflicting
emotions |
alienation
from family |
sense of
despair / hopelessness |
difficulty
with memory |
substance
abuse |
changes in
appetite |
self
devaluation |
lowered
self-esteem |
intense
guilt /shame |
nausea |
confusion |
humiliation |
spontaneous
crying |
intense
anger / rage |
extreme
fear |
irritability |
embarrassment |
remorse |
hatred |
grief |
| "My
husband was the one who encouraged me to make an appointment to see this counselor.
Now, four months later, how do I tell my husband that I am having an affair with my
counselor? My God, I can't believe this is happening!" |
This is some of the harm that can be caused by professionals who exploit the emotional
vulnerability of their clients by pursuing a sexual relationship with them.
This can be a very deep and complex violation of the client, betraying the intimate
vulnerability and trust imparted on the professional by the client. The
emotional and psychological injury might not be due to just sexual contact, but
may also be a result of the broader boundary violations or other forms of exploitation
that may have taken place. Ironically this harm is being caused by
professionals originally entrusted by clients to help them, not harm them.
Not only do clients not get the help they needed, but instead, the original reasons for
seeking help may be greatly exacerbated.
| "My
wife had an affair with our minister. He counseled us many times on marital issues,
and I was shocked beyond belief when I found out about the affair. I feel so doubly
betrayed. I even feel betrayed by God. During their affair, I began to sense
that something was wrong. My wife became increasingly depressed and ultimately
suicidal. After one of her suicide attempts nearly succeeded, I learned what had
been happening. A subsequent counselor has helped us work through this, but it is a
slow and painful process. The issues are different than in a "normal
affair." In fact, our present counselor insists we should not refer to this as
an 'affair'. This was abuse." |
Sexual exploitation by professionals is a serious societal problem with an alarming
prevalence. Current estimates are that one-third2 of all money
awarded for medical malpractice is for damages for sexual misconduct. (In some
specific professions, such as psychology, this monetary figure is estimated at greater
than fifty percent!3) Sexual exploitation by professionals has
come to be recognized as a problem of great magnitude in recent years. A PRNewswire
report4 states:
"According to a survey reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association
(JAMA), 1O% of psychiatrists admitted to having sexual relations with their patients.
However, in a survey reported by the American Journal of Ortho Psychiatry, 65% of the
psychiatrists who were asked stated they knew of a colleague having or having had sexual
relations with their patients or with a patient. In a July 1997 report, published by the
Public Citizen Health Research Group, 28% of psychiatrists were disciplined for
sex-related offenses, which is a figure far higher than any of the other medical specialty
groups. A 1973 report found an incredible 51% of psychiatrists involved in sexual crimes
or relations with patients. Overall, psychiatrists rise far above the national scale on
sexual offenses."
Studies indicate5 that as many as 10 to 12 percent of male
therapists sexually exploit clients at some point in their career. For many, this is
not a single incident, but instead is a repeated behavior. For clients abused in
this way, as many as 90 percent suffer serious consequences. Tremendous harm can
result from this prevalent form of abuse.
This is tragic, considering clients run the risk of being exploited and abused, when
what they were seeking was help, not abuse. As authors Friedman and Boumil
state in their book, "Betrayal
of Trust: Sex and Power in Professional Relationships":
"there is absolutely nothing romantic about it. It is not about love; it is
really not even about sex. It is about power and exploitation. It is about
what happens when an unethical professional encounters a psychologically vulnerable
patient, client, student, or other and decides to use her trust in him, primarily
engendered by his power and position, to his own advantage - with little regard to the
consequences for her."
The consequences are far-reaching, and can cause a damaging or harmful impact on
persons close to the victim6,7 such a spouse or family or friends.
| "I
admired him so much and I was flattered when he admitted that he found me
attractive. At first it seemed so romantic. I don't know what happened.
I feel like I lost touch with who I am and all that I believed about myself. This
has hurt me so bad. I can't trust anyone anymore. I feel so alone in my
pain. Each day, it hurts to even wake up." |
Victims often find themselves feeling very isolated in this form of abuse. They
often do not know where to turn for help. People who do not understand the real
issues involved in this form of exploitation, sometimes do not even realize this is abuse,
especially when they consider the sexual relationship appears to be
"consensual". The client herself/himself, might initially feel they are
somehow responsible for the abuse because they consented. The truth is that there is
often such a severe imbalance of "power" in the relationship that the possibility
of true consent does not exist8. The vulnerable
client can be unfairly influenced and exploited through this power imbalance, especially
in relationships where a psychological phenomena called "transference"9
frequently occurs, or where the client is very emotionally dependent on the professional.
Because of the prevalence of this problem in the mental health community, numerous
states have created "Sexual Exploitation" laws which strictly prohibit
professionals in the mental health community, or anyone who purports to provide mental
health services, licensed or unlicensed, from sexually exploiting their clients or even former
clients. Concerning the question of the client's "consent" in the sexual
relationship, the imbalance of power and the potential for abusing a client's
vulnerability is so strong in these cases, that civil statutes explicitly prohibit the
fact that the client may have "consented" from being considered in the
case. In some states, penal codes consider this form of abuse to be a second degree
felony, defining it as a form of sexual assault.
Despite the existence of these laws, most cases of this abuse are not reported, and the
process of going through legal channels sometimes further traumatizes and discourages
victims. Thus, most victims suffer in silence. Tragically, some even
attempt suicide. But the good news is that there is hope, and there is help
available.
"Sexual harassment" gets a lot of media coverage, yet differs from
"sexual exploitation" by professionals. Of course, sexual harassment
is indeed degrading, violating, abusive, and harmful but sometimes the harm from sexual
exploitation can be much greater, leaving much deeper wounds. With this Web site (http://www.advocateweb.org/hope),
we hope to provide survivors of this form of abuse with some resources to help them in
their recovery, and we hope these resources are also helpful for professionals in reducing
the prevalence of this problem.
Sources:
| 1. |
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th edition (DSM-IV)
(1994) and
Pamela K. Sutherland, "Sexual
Abuse by Therapists, Physicians, Attorneys, and Other Professionals" and
Joel Friedman and Marcia Mobilia Boumil, "Betrayal
of Trust: Sex and Power in Professional Relationships", p. 109-113 and
Signe L. Nestingen, "Breach
of Trust - Sexual Exploitation by Health Care Professionals and Clergy" (John
Gonsiorek, Editor), "Transforming Power - Women Who Have Been Exploited by a
Professional", p. 82 |
| 2. |
Joel Friedman and Marcia Mobilia Boumil, "Betrayal
of Trust: Sex and Power in Professional Relationships", introduction |
| 3. |
Gary Richard Schoener, "Assessment
& Rehabilitation of Psychotherapists Who Violate Boundaries With Clients" |
| 4. |
PRNewswire, Pinellas, Fla., 09/14/97 |
| 5. |
Joel Friedman and Marcia Mobilia Boumil, "Betrayal
of Trust: Sex and Power in Professional Relationships", p. 10 |
| 6. |
Steven B. Bisbing, Linda M. Jorgenson, Pamela K. Sutherland, "Sexual Abuse
by Professionals: A Legal Guide", section 6-6(b) "Third Parties as Secondary
Victims", which references:
Jeanette Milgrom, "Secondary Victim of Sexual Exploitation by Counselors and
Therapists: Some Observations" |
| 7. |
Ellen Thompson Luepker, "Breach
of Trust - Sexual Exploitation by Health Care Professionals and Clergy" (John
Gonsiorek, Editor), "Helping Direct and Associate Victims to Restore Connections
After Practitioner Sexual Misconduct", p. 112 |
| 8. |
Marilyn R. Peterson, "At
Personal Risk - Boundary Violations in Professional-Client Relationships", p.
122-125
Joel Friedman and Marcia Mobilia Boumil, "Betrayal
of Trust: Sex and Power in Professional Relationships", p. 3-4 |
| 9. |
Joel Friedman and Marcia Mobilia Boumil, "Betrayal
of Trust: Sex and Power in Professional Relationships", p. 20-22 |
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